APPEARANCE VS. CHARACTER, PART 1
Is it possible that you and I are still judging a person’s character by their outward appearance, rather than looking deeper to examine their hearts and motives? You bet it is. We’re all guilty of it. We get preoccupied with a person’s attractiveness, charisma or talent, and neglect to dig
down to discern the root of their true spiritual life.
It’s been a very long time – about three thousand years – since God told Samuel, His prophet, to anoint the first king of Israel. He told Samuel, as recorded in I Samuel 16, that the king would be one of Jesse’s sons, but didn’t tell him which. The firstborn, big, bad, tough, strong, handsome, capable, tall, definitely-leadership-material Eliab came walking past. Samuel figured this must be the guy. He was virtually the embodiment of kingliness. Samuel was opening his vial of oil, ready to do his job. But God grabbed his elbow, so to speak, and said, in verse 7, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” If Samuel, prophet par excellence, was capable of so badly misreading a man, how much more challenging is it for us to look past the outer trappings of a person and see through to the heart? Samuel got a good reminder that day, and I hope you and I get it today.
It’s so easy to “look on his/her appearance” and fail to go the extra mile, or more sometimes, to determine what’s in the heart. The true greatness of a man or woman is not found in their appearance, personality or abilities, but in their character. Character (or the lack thereof) is, in
many, if not most, cases, not obvious at first glance.
It’s so easy to be taken in. How many times have we looked up to a public figure, only to be disillusioned when they don’t turn out to be what they appeared to be? That politician you thought was the best thing for our country since sliced bread, turns out to be a crook. That
pastor you thought was a wonderful man – maybe the best preacher you’d ever heard - abandons his wife and children for another woman. Even a friend sometimes turns out not to be what we thought they were and hurts us.
But how can we know? How can we discern what is in someone’s heart? Is it possible to determine someone’s character just by looking? I don’t think it is. When it comes to public figures, there’s no way to know for sure, unless their character has been documented for many
years. If I were making a list of public figures whose character I trust implicitly, only a handful of pastors I have sat under, or listened to on the radio for many decades, would qualify.
Be careful onto whose bandwagon you jump.
But more to the place where we live our lives, how about those people we know personally? How can we discern character? Author and pastor Warren Weirsbe wrote, “If you want to learn what a person is really like, ask three questions: What makes him laugh? What makes him angry? What makes him weep? These are fairly good tests of character that are especially appropriate for Christian leaders.”
Occasionally you will encounter an objection from someone quoting Matthew 7:1: “Do not judge lest you be judged.” But Jesus did not mean for us to completely abandon our knowledge of right and wrong and simply accept everyone at face value. Common sense would tell us
that. And Jesus confirmed it just a few verses later, when He cautioned, “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.” He went on in verses 17-20 to say, “So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.”
No, we are not to judge and condemn without cause, but Jesus does call us to be fruit inspectors! You don’t need a badge or any special education or training - just a modicum of discernment and the wisdom and desire to use it. Jesus said, “You will recognize them by their
fruits.” Usually it’s not difficult to recognize bad fruit – the smell gives it away. We can all recognize the odor of pride, unforgiveness, impatience, a controlling attitude, coarseness, gossiping, lying and unkindness. Granted, most of us have displayed one or more of those
characteristics on occasion, but it’s a pattern or lifestyle that we’re looking for when we’re judging a person’s character.
People who regularly display these characteristics are people we don’t want to be around, except to share God’s love and forgiveness. Of course they need Jesus – only a relationship with Him can produce a change of heart. Yes, we may spend time with them, but we ought to be very careful about making a friend of them. Many of us have learned the hard way that befriending such a person only leads to heartache.
Three thousand years ago, God told us not to judge by appearance, in I Samuel 16. Jesus reiterated the principle in John 7:27: “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.” I encourage you today to use your God-given discernment and look past the superficial attractiveness of folks. Give people the benefit of the doubt, but be very careful whose “team” you join; the wolves are prowling!
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About the author:

Recently retired, Brad looks forward to the challenges of a new ministry. He feels that seniors are a vital part of the church Body and though he has only recently crossed the threshold of “senior-dom,” he trusts that God can use Him to help seniors build a stronger relationship with God and stronger relationships with others. The senior years are accompanied by unique challenges, and Brad hopes to be able to come alongside seniors to pass along God’s hope and encouragement.
Brad and his wife Erin began attending Hannaford in November 2019. They have three grown children and two grandchildren (and a third due Spring 2026).
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